Just The Facts Please....

So I had an interesting discussion with a friend about size and the average for men and women.  We laughed, but he was actually surprised when I showed him some facts about the law of sexual appendage averages.  It did get me thinking though, about how many people believe in the myths about size and appeal.... So what does that have to do with anything?

Well let's talk about what are the norms here, because I bet that my buddy won't be the only one surprised by what the actual averages are.  Let's start with men.... to the average man, his penis is, one of the most important things in the whole world (whether he admits to it or not). At an early age he discovers it and immediately becomes fascinated by it, any Mom or Dad can tell you that it starts in diapers.  It's a race to see if they pee on you or cop a feel.  Seriously, though many societies socially constructed mythology that size matters in the measure of manhood is crap.  It's a pervasive stigma that pressures many men  to have that peek into the next urinal and wondering just how do I rate in size?

Society is so hung up on size, which I find bizarre because other than say a woman's boobs, the penis is about the only part of a human being that society endorses large sizes in. The truth is length of a penis doesn't really mean a thing except when it comes to having your pants tailored and whether you could take out someone's eye by walking past.  No matter what your Dad, Brother, Uncle or Granddad tells you length isn't where it's at, in fact many women are intimidated by a large/long penis, while many are attracted to a man who has some substance to him. 

According to the professionals the average flaccid penis is 3.75in in length (9.5cm), keeping in mind of course that there are all sorts of factors that affect the length of a penis such as temperature, there can be a variance of as much as 2 in, which is all well and good, but let's get to the nitty gritty, who cares what a limp noodle measures. What's important is the size after an erection right?

In a study of 300 men done by Masters and Johnson,   there were a few notable facts found:

• The largest organ was 14 cm (5.5 inches) in the flaccid state. It belonged to a slim man who was 5' 7" tall (170 cm).
• The smallest penis measured 6cm (2.25 inches). It belonged to a fairly heavily built man of 5' 11" (180cm).

• The man whose non-erect penis is smallish will usually achieve about a 100 per cent increase in length during sexual excitement.
• The man whose non-erect penis is on the largish size will probably manage about a 75 per cent increase.
• This means the great majority of penises measure between 15cm and 18cm (6-7 inches) when erect, with the average figure being about 16.5cm (6.5 inches).

Interestingly, most penises are very much the same size when erect, and there is also no correlation between race and penile size.  Sorry to break the news to you....So you can see that even if a man has got a 'small' penis, he's got a built-in compensating factor that will bring him up to about the same size as the guy who appears to be 'better equipped' in the shower room.

I hope I haven't lost you to all the stats n facts... because  this is an important part for you men to know... it doesn't matter how long or how short your penis is, because the vagina will accommodate itself to virtually any length.

Speaking of women let's get some facts for us .....

• The vagina of a woman who hasn't had a child is only 7.5cm (3 inches) long when she's not sexually excited. The figures for women who have had babies are only slightly different.
• Even when aroused, a woman's vagina usually extends only to a length of about 10cm (4 inches).

The key point to remember with women is to properly excite her, by doing so her vaginal passage will adjust to accommodate even the exceptionally large; however, he needs to penetrate very slowly. In this manner the vagina will lengthen by 150 or 200 per cent to accommodate him.

So what have we learned?  Well..... men the only size that really interests women is girth, so if your a chubby penis man ...your partner will no doubt enjoy you, the average man is very capable of above average sex and the long man can still play if he takes his time to do it right.... which by the way I think is advice every man should take when approaching sex, well women too preparation and build up isn't just about sliding home it's about avoiding potential harm and pain for your partner as well.  

The message here is style over substance will get you further than you think, take the time to play, to excite and to get to know your partner...otherwise sex is just another cardio work out.

Play Time

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Seduce Me

It's been a bit since I written and I've been mulling over what topic I wanted to talk about.  I considered several before finally coming back to this one.  Seduction... we've all seen the stereotypical shows and movies... we all have this ideal about what seduction is.  According to the dictionary: Seduction is a noun that means to: 

1.an act or instance of seducing,  especially sexually.

2.the condition of being seduced.

3.a means of seducing;  enticement; temptation.

hmmm, while accurate I also find it slightly vague, but then when it comes to sex and sexuality most things are ambiguous and vague...I mean in the sense that sex is a very personal experience and no two experiences are exactly alike (even with the same long term partner and it feels like it is...but that's another topic).  But really what is seduction?  Is it really the rose petals on the sheets?  The soft music and candlelight?  Sure that will work even on me, but those kinds of seductions are short term. gets you laid but then so will 20 bucks and a back alley.  Short term is like binge eating gives you momentary pleasure but then you up chuck and it's over...real seduction is savouring that meal and letting ever mouthful overwhelm your senses with flavour and joy.  True Seduction Artists know that it's a life long affair, it's not the kick start to a sexual relationship but a significant part in keeping it fresh, exciting and keeping your partner engaged.  

True seduction isn't the wine, chocolate and flowers...(although those help but there just accessories to YOU).  To me seduction, like most parts of sex, sexuality and being sexy is a mental exercise in creativity, problem solving and focus.  You don't have to use tried and true...I'm not knocking it but if you want to seduce me, you need to have your thinking hat on (she says as Joe Cocker is singing "You Can Leave Your Hat On" in her head). 

Seduction is taking the time, asking who is this person I want to seduce?  What is it that they love and what is it that really turns them on?  Sometimes the best forms of seduction have nothing to do with sex and everything to do with showing someone how well you know them and how much they mean to you.  For instance, Find something small ... the latest by a favourite author or movie, something that tells them you're paying attention, that you know them, that who they are has made a difference in your life.  It's seeing how tired your partner is and instead of leaving the supper dishes, you run them a bath and you clean the kitchen. 

Now I can just see people going WTH?  How does doing the dishes relate to seduction and getting laid?  Well, if they're tired chances are they have energy for the dishes or you....take the time to read with them, or better yet read a book they love to them, write a love letter by hand and tuck into their bag/briefcase/pocket.  My point is that seduction is about intimacy, about connection and about tailoring what you do to the person.

Seduce Me.....bring me to a place where all I want is to be with you, convince me that you're the only one on earth I want to be with and do it with creativity and by figuring out what makes me tick, what really turns me on....show me how well you know me and be in the moment and enjoy it fully ....