Seduce Me

It's been a bit since I written and I've been mulling over what topic I wanted to talk about.  I considered several before finally coming back to this one.  Seduction... we've all seen the stereotypical shows and movies... we all have this ideal about what seduction is.  According to the dictionary: Seduction is a noun that means to: 

1.an act or instance of seducing,  especially sexually.

2.the condition of being seduced.

3.a means of seducing;  enticement; temptation.

hmmm, while accurate I also find it slightly vague, but then when it comes to sex and sexuality most things are ambiguous and vague...I mean in the sense that sex is a very personal experience and no two experiences are exactly alike (even with the same long term partner and it feels like it is...but that's another topic).  But really what is seduction?  Is it really the rose petals on the sheets?  The soft music and candlelight?  Sure that will work even on me, but those kinds of seductions are short term. gets you laid but then so will 20 bucks and a back alley.  Short term is like binge eating gives you momentary pleasure but then you up chuck and it's over...real seduction is savouring that meal and letting ever mouthful overwhelm your senses with flavour and joy.  True Seduction Artists know that it's a life long affair, it's not the kick start to a sexual relationship but a significant part in keeping it fresh, exciting and keeping your partner engaged.  

True seduction isn't the wine, chocolate and flowers...(although those help but there just accessories to YOU).  To me seduction, like most parts of sex, sexuality and being sexy is a mental exercise in creativity, problem solving and focus.  You don't have to use tried and true...I'm not knocking it but if you want to seduce me, you need to have your thinking hat on (she says as Joe Cocker is singing "You Can Leave Your Hat On" in her head). 

Seduction is taking the time, asking who is this person I want to seduce?  What is it that they love and what is it that really turns them on?  Sometimes the best forms of seduction have nothing to do with sex and everything to do with showing someone how well you know them and how much they mean to you.  For instance, Find something small ... the latest by a favourite author or movie, something that tells them you're paying attention, that you know them, that who they are has made a difference in your life.  It's seeing how tired your partner is and instead of leaving the supper dishes, you run them a bath and you clean the kitchen. 

Now I can just see people going WTH?  How does doing the dishes relate to seduction and getting laid?  Well, if they're tired chances are they have energy for the dishes or you....take the time to read with them, or better yet read a book they love to them, write a love letter by hand and tuck into their bag/briefcase/pocket.  My point is that seduction is about intimacy, about connection and about tailoring what you do to the person.

Seduce Me.....bring me to a place where all I want is to be with you, convince me that you're the only one on earth I want to be with and do it with creativity and by figuring out what makes me tick, what really turns me on....show me how well you know me and be in the moment and enjoy it fully ....